Sunday, June 29, 2008

From Blogher: What do you mean I'm in a midlife crisis!

I went with my offspring last night to see the movie "Wanted" with James McAvoy, Angelina Jolie, and Morgan Freeman. In it a young man is beaten repeatedly when he fails to give an acceptable response to the question "why are you here?"

He has all kinds of answers. "I'm here to learn how to be an assassin," or something like that. "I'm here because you people came to me," he says, but I'm paraphrasing. Finally, after maybe the fourth beating he answers, "I'm here because I don't know who I am." The turning point.

I reflected, "Perhaps that's most of us. We're here taking a beating because we don't know who we are."

In my old life, not the one where I was married but the one during which I awakened and found myself going through a hellish divorce, I wrote something about how one day I realized my life was doing the Watusi and there was not much I could do to stop it. ... Post continued at this link.

5 comments:

Bernice L. McFadden said...

I see we share some of the same favorite books. Please drop by my blog or my website: www.bernicemcfadden.com and experience my novels.

Peace & Light,

Bernice McFadden
aka
Geneva Holliday

Vérité Parlant said...

Thank you for alerting me to your work. I will take a look today.

Michelle S. said...

I read this post on the BlogHer site and had to come by and say hello! I am not at the age many would classify as mid-life crisis worthy yet, but I have been wondering the question "Do I know who I am?" thank you your sharing your post! It is always good to know I am not alone in my wonderings of my self identity.

blackwomenblowthetrumpet.blogspot.com said...

Hello there... {waves}

This is profound!

Is "mid-life" 50? 40?

There are so many discussions I try to lead at my blog about this issue about self-definition because so much of what we DO and DO NOT do is tied to the parameters that we have defined for ourselves and our lives...

I am so pleased to see you leading this discussion....

It is vitally important!

{thumbs up}

Peace, blessings and DUNAMIS!
Lisa

Vérité Parlant said...

50 or 40? Since the human race seems to be getting older, perhaps it's now 42.5. LOL.

I try not to lock myself or others in a box, which is why I don't really want to embrace the midlife label.

Thanks for dropping by. I think more and more women will be talking about reaching midlife, its pleasures and challenges, in an open, fearless fashion.