Friday, May 22, 2009

OSF: This is Dedicated to Women Coming into Their Own Souls and Dreams

This week's Old School Friday theme is "This is dedicated to." Here's B.B. King and friends Gladys Knight, Chaka Khan, and Etta James singing "Ain't Nobody's Business If I Do."

Part of the lyrics are a woman saying if her man beats her but she sticks with him, it ain't nobody's business. Gladys sings that part and makes sure you know she's not gonna stand for that. :-)

Anyway, I tossed around ideas in my head for this dedication theme, and naturally thought of individuals to dedicate a song to first. I changed my mind and decided to go with this song and dedicate it to all women who are coming into their own, whether they are young women or women who aren't discovering who they are and what they want in life until midlife and beyond.

I think this idea of women coming into their own crossed my mind moreso because I recently posted at the African-American Book Examiner on Sapphire's book Push being produced as the movie Precious by Tyler Perry and Oprah Winfrey.

I thought about not only Sapphire, Oprah, and Tyler's success but also the character Precious, an obese teen who's been abused and must free herself from those who treat her badly and accept love not fear it. Most of us need help to overcome major obstacles in our lives, but one sign of knowing that we're coming into our own is to recognize that we make our own choices to improve our lives, and making a choice for our own dreams usually means freeing ourselves from the expectations of others or telling others we will not be a slave to their egos. We come to a place and say our business is our own and we're responsible for our own joy.

I mentioned women because women tend to try to please others so much that they sometimes lose themselves, but I also give props to men who move forward. Think about Tyler Perry. Whether you like his work or not, that man had to have an attitude of "Ain't Nobody's Business If I Do" to accomplish what he's accomplished. He started producing plays during a period when mainstream theater business people were still saying the success of a black playwright was naturally limited.

O.K. enough of my soap box today. :-)

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Revvy Rev said...

True and profound. When all is said and done, it ain't nobody else's business. But in a way, what you do directly affects me indirectly and down the line somehow. Well said. Enjoy this holiday weekend.

Anonymous said...

That's quite an ensemble there lady. :)

Have a fabulous and safe long weekend!

Mahoganydymond said...

You are so right about me liking this post.. I am going through a change as of right now.. I am coming to my to where I know I can't please everyone all the time. I am also demanding my respect. So thank you.. You did pick a great song...

PPR_Scribe said...

Why, thank you for this--as I consider myself one of these "women coming into her own"! LOL I think it is an age thing cuz I am absolutely am loving my 40s. So far I wouldn't trade this decade for any of my previous ones.

Have a great week!