Friday, January 15, 2010

Confessions of a Lover of Sexy Music in Midlife

I'm over at, talking Teddy Pendergrass's sensuality in comments and confessing my sins. I began telling Candelaria Silva that I prefer subtlety in lyrics, and then the little devil on my shoulder said, "Now you know that's not completely true, girl. You need to quit. You've got some songs in your collection that shonuff ain't subtle and romantic. You got some stuff you listen to that your mother would have called 'unladylike' listening."

Yeah, I'll forgive Prince anything. So, if you're a prude, skip this video below, "Sexy M.F." by His Royal Purpleness. You may have heard he's religious now and so less prone to do the wild and crazy sex thing, but that doesn't stop him from being sexy, as we hear with songs like "On the Couch."

And here is an interview with Prince from Tavis Smiley. WOW! With his glasses and talk of record companies scamming artists, he's almost geeky. It rhymes with freaky in a hot way.

As for other sex-drenched songs that I like, how about "Caligula" by Macy Gray? Yes, I know I've mentioned that before.

And I love "You Sure Love to Ball" by Marvin Gaye, and I also like "Slow 'N Sexy" by Shabba Ranks and Johnny Gil. And, well, you get the picture--if I say I can't get into something dripping sex and hanging it out in the open, you know I'm lying.

Nevertheless, some of today's stuff is still too crude for me because vulgarity without artistry only makes me shudder, and yet I like "Shake Ya Tail Feather" by Nelly & others. I feel guilty about liking that song because it goes against my feminist core, and yet, if it comes on, my head bops and I sing the chorus.

There's a satire in "Shake Ya Tail Feather" with its overdose of testosterone and young stud mythology. I think it's like a train wreck for me: I can't not listen the way people can't not watch. And then I go all philosophical wondering about the girls who want that kind of attention and how the males think they're getting over. Is it submission to the male on these girls' parts or an understanding of the most basic feminine power stifled by a lack of life choices?

You can see by this, that I only learn of new HipHop music by accident. I couldn't tell you what's topping the charts now. The song has to really blow up and go mainstream, or show up in a commercial, or I have to study it to write something as I did with Lil Wayne. It's rarely my choice to turn on the radio and cruise for misogynistic rap hits or unimaginative lyrics like "I want to f**k that one and that one."

It occurred to me that if I had decided to cover blues music here too, then we'd know so-called vulgar lyrics have been selling for a long, long time. That's right, baby, "Meet Me With Your Black Drawers On." The first time I heard this song, I was in a car riding through South Carolina with my former spouse. I almost spit my iced tea out. And we know the right blues riff will make you move like you've got no spine and want to roll all night on some satin sheets. I mean, she tells the man, "Meet me with your black drawers on ... Rock me like I ain't got no backbone."

Finally, English Majors know what Chaucer was really saying sometimes too with his verses. ;-) Sex in the song or verse is nothing new and the worst of it has probably already been written. Come on, right! Sex is not new.


le0pard13 said...

Great post, Nordette.

msladydeborah said...

While I was reading this I had to stop and think about how much "unlady" like music I actually like, own and listen to. You don't want to know the answer.

All I can say is that I like what I like.

Anonymous said...

"You won't be under aaany kind a presshaaaa!"
"Pul-eeze... I cannot stand pressure."
Teddy P. will live in our hearts forever.
And some songs just catch you up and you are into them before you know how nasty they are!
Spank Rock's "Touch Me" is one of those for me!

Great post, Nordette!
And for more unladylike songs, check out Black Spade's "The Perfume She Wore"... "That young lady can't help herself she wanna be baaad."