Wednesday, July 13, 2011

Becker Pulls a Bobbitt: Cuts Off Husband's Penis (Video)

I was married and in my early 30s when Lorena Bobbitt, age 24, cut off her husband John Wayne Bobbitt's penis in Virginia. What level of rage does it take to do that to a man? Today I learned another woman has done it again, Catherine Kieu Becker, 48, of Southern, California.

CBS News reports that she "drugged her estranged husband, tied him to a bed, cut off his penis and put it through a garbage disposal." I guess she didn't want it collected and reattached, which is what happened in the Bobbitt case. (Lorena threw the organ from a car window on a road. Surgeons successfully reattached John's penis during a 9-hour surgery.)
He (Becker) was conscious when his penis was removed," said Garden Grove police Lt. Jeff Nightengale.

Nightengale says Becker put the penis in the garbage disposal and turned it on.

According to CBS station KCBS, Becker called 911 and told responding officers that her husband, whose name has not been released, "deserved it."
That's hate beyond hate, and it's also possible she is mentally ill.

Despite going through one of the world's most bitter divorces, I never contemplated mutilating my ex. No man is worth bringing yourself so low or the jail time. But maybe for Becker, the pain she felt he caused her was too much too bear.

Bobbitt now Becker, is it a letter "B" thing? Apparently not. Kim Tran, 35, committed the same crime in 2005 against her boyfriend, 44, in Anchorage, Alaska. She flushed it down the toilet.

Naturally, the husband in the Becker case, who is recovering in the hospital, is in shock. She invited him to dinner and cooked for him. I guess he thought that meant all was forgiven. (See, my mother told me to never eat anything an estranged spouse cooks.) Becker faces charges of "aggressive mayhem."

Lorena Bobbitt was charged with "malicious wounding," and later a jury found her not guilty by reason of temporary insanity.

But oh, updating for poetry. Hat tip to a friend who points us to Lucille Clifton's poem "Lorena." I add it not to condone carving up men, but to give a nod to poetics and the politics of being female. Lorena Bobbitt said John, who was a notorious womanizer and unfaithful, sexually assaulted her and that's why she cut off his penis. He was not convicted of spousal abuse charges against him, however.


msladydeborah said...

This is an extreme response to their relationship woes. Especially when you consider that they were not married over a long period of time.

Gloria (The Little Red House with the White Porch) said...

Greetings, friend! I've been on a break, and have not been committed to reading my favorite blogs, nor commenting on my favorite bloggers' posts, but I saw this tonight and I must say: Kudos to you for this timely post... I heard the other day that "another" woman did this (I do remember Lorena Bobbitt!) and I was shocked that this happened again. I just had to say my two cents today that I cannot BELIEVE that this happened again. Meaning: I cannot believe that someone would be SO MAD at their partner to do this. I feel if a woman waits SO LONG to get to this point, to be so exasperated, so full of hate that SHE should be ashamed. Man, she should have gotten out of the relationship LONG AGO before she is so far gone to feel THIS way and to do THIS to a man. I think any woman should be ashamed. GET THE F*CK OUT BEFORE YOU HAVE TO LOWER YOURSELF TO DO THIS -- AND to do such a TERRIBLE THING TO ANOTHER PERSON!!!!!!! OK, that's my take on it and I thank you for listening and thank you for posting on this subject.

Vérité Parlant is Nordette Adams said...

Hi, Deborah. I wonder how long they knew each other because I also noticed when reading the case that they had not been married long. It's strange and it makes me think that if they hadn't lived with each other before the marriage or known each other long then she either brought a helluva lot of baggage with her to the relationship or he did something so uniquely cruel to her that she went nuclear, H-Bomb of rage.

Vérité Parlant is Nordette Adams said...

Thanks for visiting, Gloria. I doubt we'll ever know the real reason behind her breakdown to violence. Scary!