I was married and in my early 30s when Lorena Bobbitt, age 24, cut off her husband John Wayne Bobbitt's penis in Virginia. What level of rage does it take to do that to a man? Today I learned another woman has done it again, Catherine Kieu Becker, 48, of Southern, California.
CBS News reports that she "drugged her estranged husband, tied him to a bed, cut off his penis and put it through a garbage disposal." I guess she didn't want it collected and reattached, which is what happened in the Bobbitt case. (Lorena threw the organ from a car window on a road. Surgeons successfully reattached John's penis during a 9-hour surgery.)
He (Becker) was conscious when his penis was removed," said Garden Grove police Lt. Jeff Nightengale.That's hate beyond hate, and it's also possible she is mentally ill.
Nightengale says Becker put the penis in the garbage disposal and turned it on.
According to CBS station KCBS, Becker called 911 and told responding officers that her husband, whose name has not been released, "deserved it."
Despite going through one of the world's most bitter divorces, I never contemplated mutilating my ex. No man is worth bringing yourself so low or the jail time. But maybe for Becker, the pain she felt he caused her was too much too bear.
Bobbitt now Becker, is it a letter "B" thing? Apparently not. Kim Tran, 35, committed the same crime in 2005 against her boyfriend, 44, in Anchorage, Alaska. She flushed it down the toilet.
Naturally, the husband in the Becker case, who is recovering in the hospital, is in shock. She invited him to dinner and cooked for him. I guess he thought that meant all was forgiven. (See, my mother told me to never eat anything an estranged spouse cooks.) Becker faces charges of "aggressive mayhem."
Lorena Bobbitt was charged with "malicious wounding," and later a jury found her not guilty by reason of temporary insanity.
But oh, updating for poetry. Hat tip to a friend who points us to Lucille Clifton's poem "Lorena." I add it not to condone carving up men, but to give a nod to poetics and the politics of being female. Lorena Bobbitt said John, who was a notorious womanizer and unfaithful, sexually assaulted her and that's why she cut off his penis. He was not convicted of spousal abuse charges against him, however.